This Thanksgiving, American Jews are dreading clashes with their kids over Israel. Here are some pointers to help pro-Israel parents defend Israel firmly, fairly, and proportionally, while preserving familial peace. Craft your Thanksgiving toast, think historically, and give thanks for America's successes. Emphasize that Jews want peace and mention friends in Israel. Reiterate Israel's legitimacy, consider the murderous glee of Hamas, and engage in debate rooted in facts. Remember that family unity does not require political uniformity, and that we can be thoughtful, critical, but fair patriots and Zionists.